TRUE LOVE: Third Mindfulness Training: Honest and Fulfilling Relationships

TRUE LOVE: Third Mindfulness Training: Honest and Fulfilling Relationships

Dear friends,

This week, we will meet Monday evening, September 1st, from 7-8:30PM EDT online; Wednesday morning, September 3rd, from 7-8AM EDT in person at our meditation space (3812 Northampton Street NW); and Friday, September 5th, 12-1PM EDT online.

On Monday, Ellen facilitates, and we’ll gather online to discuss the Third Mindfulness Training that focuses on true love. (Full training below.) This is an important, challenging training–and one that likely speaks to all of us in different ways. For me, this training speaks to the importance of recognizing my own needs and how to meet them, bringing respect and honesty to my relationships, and being willing to take steps to protect others from harm when I can.

This training also makes me ask myself if I am willing to honestly speak up to protect others and also to speak up about my own needs. At the same time, the training reminds me of the importance of focusing on and attending to the needs of my partner and my family.

You and I Are the Same: Humility as Liberation in Thầy’s Life and Legacy

You and I Are the Same: Humility as Liberation in Thầy’s Life and Legacy

Dear friends,

This week, we will meet Monday evening, August 25, from 7-8:30PM EDT in person at our meditation space (3812 Northampton Street NW); Wednesday morning, August 27, from 7-8AM EDT online; and Friday, August 29, from 12-1PM EDT in person / online (hybrid).

On Monday, Magda will guide us in exploring the theme of freedom as it appears in The Art of Power, Appendix B: Work and Pleasure—The Example of Patagonia. She will also share how she experienced freedom while retracing Thích Nhất Hạnh’s steps during her pilgrimage through Vietnam, undertaken in commemoration of Thầy’s Ashes Ceremony.

In an appendix to The Art of Power, Thầy reflects on the company Patagonia and the spirit that guides its work. Its leaders and employees walk an unconventional path, refusing the suffocating norms that weigh down so many businesses. Their purpose flows from a deeper source, not from attachment or greed. They bring the light of mindfulness into their daily work, knowing that work itself—and all the restless busyness it can invite—is not the whole of life. Their workplace becomes a space for living an examined life, one that nourishes a quiet freedom.

One with the 10,000 Natural Things: Humility as the Foundation of True Power

One with the 10,000 Natural Things: Humility as the Foundation of True Power

Dear friends,

This week, we will meet Monday evening, August 18th, from 7-8:30PM EDT online; Wednesday morning, August 20th, from 7-8AM EDT Online; and Friday, August 8th, 12-1PM EDT online.

On Monday night, Magda will lead us in a reflection on Thich Nhat Hanh’s model of humility, as presented in Appendix A, and share examples she witnessed during her visit to Vietnam for his Ash Ceremony in January of last year.

Magda shares:  

In the first appendix to The Art of Power, Thầy surprises us by suggesting practices to cultivate true power—practices that are simple and humble. They are not about domination or ambition, but about presence, compassion, and deep listening. 

This reminds me of what I learned about Thầy during the Ash Ceremony at Tu Hiếu, when I visited with the monastics. I could feel the depth of his commitment to helping all beings—not through grand gestures, but through the quiet power of humility and compassion. As we stood before the altar, Sister Định Nghiêm pointed to a column inscribed with the first Bodhisattva Vow: “Living beings are countless; I vow to help them all. Then, with a spark of realization, she said, “Thầy was such a rebel.” Her voice was filled with admiration—for a teacher who never conformed, who drew deeply from Vietnamese tradition while daring to innovate, always guided by compassion and humility.

Sparking a Collective Awakening

Sparking a Collective Awakening

Dear friends,

This week, we will meet Monday evening, August 11, from 7-8:30PM EDT in person at our meditation space (3812 Northampton Street NW); Wednesday morning, August 13, from 7-8AM EDT online; and Friday, August 15, from 12-1PM EDT in person / online (hybrid).

Camille will facilitate this Monday. Camille shares:

We will continue our summer reading of the book The Art of Power by Thich Nhat Hanh (Thay). This week, if you are able, we invite you to read Chapter Nine: Sparking a Collective Awakening (pages 159-175).

In Chapter 9 Thay shares that we need to cultivate our spiritual powers in ourselves first, in order to help others, particularly those who may find their power is more concerned with money and fame than service to others. In short, by taking care of our suffering, we can help with the suffering of others. From my personal experience, I often feel powerless and that I can’t do much to change a difficult situation. I sometimes feel like I am only watering negative seeds and not the good seeds. However, when I practice deeply and request help from others, I find the support and faith I need to move through a situation. Thay talks about moving through and not around difficult situations, and encourages us that “the way out is in.” I believe that collective awakening means working together through difficult times, first in ourselves and then in and with the greater community. Perhaps then we may move skillfully together in encouraging our political leaders to water their positive seeds.

“If I don’t grow the lettuce, I can’t write poems.” - Thich Nhat Hanh

“If I don’t grow the lettuce, I can’t write poems.” - Thich Nhat Hanh

Dear friends,

This week, we will meet Monday evening, August 4th, from 7-8:30PM EDT online; Wednesday morning, August 6th, from 7-8AM EDT in person at our meditation space (3812 Northampton Street NW); Thursday, August 7th, from 7-8AM EDT in person/online (hybrid) and Friday, August 8th, 12-1PM EDT online.

On Monday night, Marie will facilitate, and we will continue to reflect on Thay’s book The Art of Power. If you have time, please read and reflect on Chapter 7 (Taking Care of Nonbusiness, pages 137-157).

Marie shares:  

I have a strong habit energy of prioritizing work over other aspects of life that are important to me.This chapter was a bell of mindfulness. Early on, Thay shares a story from the time of the Buddha: 

One day, a farmer who had lost his cows came running up to the Buddha and asked if he had seen them. The farmer was very upset and said, “I think I am going to die. How can I survive without my cows?” The Buddha told him, compassionately, that he had not seen them and suggested he look for them in another direction. After the farmer had left, the Buddha turned to his monks, smiled to them and said, “Dear friends, do you know that you are lucky people? You don’t have any cows to lose.”

In Generosity We Can Find True Happiness: The Second Mindfulness Training

In Generosity We Can Find True Happiness: The Second Mindfulness Training

Dear friends,

This week, we will meet Monday evening, July 28, from 7-8:30PM EDT in person at our meditation space (3812 Northampton Street NW); Wednesday morning, July 30, from 7-8AM EDT online; and Friday, August 1, from 12-1PM EDT in person / online (hybrid).

Camille will facilitate this Monday. Camille shares:

We welcome you to our Monday night in-person sangha, where we will share our once-a-month tradition of reciting the Five Mindfulness Trainings to help us cultivate and deepen our mindfulness practice. We will focus on the Second Mindfulness Training, True Happiness.

As I contemplate and practice with the Second  Mindfulness Training, I am reminded that my happiness is not separate from the happiness of others and that by practicing generosity, I can help relieve suffering and ill-being. 

Recently I have not been practicing generosity toward myself. I feel sadness and despair with all that is happening in our world and also  sad and confused about my personal life. I have a habit of focusing more on my faults and the parts of myself that I don’t like than on my more wholesome qualities. One way I do this is to focus on habits that have been passed down from my parents and ancestors, such as blaming myself for the unhappiness of others. In this way, I avoid giving myself love, understanding, and compassion.

“You Have What You Are Looking for within Yourself” - The Buddha

“You Have What You Are Looking for within Yourself” - The Buddha

Dear friends,

This week, we will meet Monday evening, July 21st, from 7-8:30PM EDT online; Wednesday morning, July 23rd, from 7-8AM EDT in person at our meditation space (3812 Northampton Street NW); and Friday, July 25th, 12-1PM EDT online.

On Monday night, Annie and Marie will co-facilitate, and we will continue to reflect on Thay’s book The Art of Power. This week we will focus on Chapters 6 (Boundless Love) and 7 (Being Present at Home and Work), pages 99-136.

They share: When we met to discuss these chapters, we were both struck by the power of this quote by the Buddha: “We have all that we are looking for within.”  

In Chapter 5, Thay elaborates:

This is what the Buddha said at the moment of enlightenment: “How strange – all living beings have the fully awakened nature, but none of them knows it. And because of that they drift and sink from lifetime to lifetime in the great ocean of samsara, in suffering.

When we recognize that in us there is the essence of goodness, beauty and truth, we will stop going in search of something. We will stop wandering around feeling that we lack something… The great awakening occurs when we recognize that what we are looking for is within us.”

The Fierce Compassion of a Bodhisattva

The Fierce Compassion of a Bodhisattva

Dear friends,

This week, we will meet Monday evening, July 14, from 7-8:30PM EDT in person at our meditation space (3812 Northampton Street NW); Wednesday morning, July 16, from 7-8AM EDT online; and Friday, July 18, from 12-1PM EDT in person / online (hybrid).

On Monday evening, Annie will facilitate and we will continue our reflections on Thay’s teaching in his book, The Art of Power. This week we will focus on Chapters 4 (Getting What We Really Want)  and 5 (The Secret of Happiness), pages 65-97.

In Chapter 4, Thay writes:

Right or wrong action can be determined by using the single criterion of suffering or nonsuffering. Whatever causes suffering in the present or the future, for ourselves and people around us, is the wrong thing to do. What brings well-being in the present and the future is the right thing. The criterion is clear…

That is why, to be happy, to be a real bodhisattva, we need to take some time each day to sit down, look into ourselves and identify the kind of energy that’s motivating us and where it is pushing us. Are we being pushed into the direction of suffering and despair? If so, we must release this intention and find a more wholesome source of energy. Our volition should be bodhicitta, the mind of love, the intention to love and serve.

Handling Power with Skillfulness and Mindfulness

Handling Power with Skillfulness and Mindfulness

Dear friends,

This week, we will meet Monday evening, July 7th, from 7-8:30PM EDT online; Wednesday morning, July 9th, from 7-8AM EDT in person at our meditation space (3812 Northampton Street NW); and Friday, July 11th, 12-1PM EDT online.

Camille will facilitate on Monday evening, and we will continue our summer reading of the book The Art of Power by Thich Nhat Hanh (Thay). This week, if you are able, we invite you to read Chapter 2: Handling Power Skillfully (pages 31-40), and Chapter 3: The Art of Mindfulness (pages 41-63). 

In Chapter 2 of the book, Thay talks about using power skillfully so that we don’t create more suffering. As we begin to cultivate the five spiritual powers as identified in Chapter 1, faith, diligence, mindfulness, concentration, and insight, we can become better leaders and encourage more understanding and happiness. In Chapter 2, in order to become true leaders, Thay offers three virtues to follow: “the virtue of cutting off, the virtue of loving, and the virtue of insight.”

True Power

True Power

Dear friends,

This week, we will meet Monday evening, June 30, from 7-8:30PM EDT in person at our meditation space (3812 Northampton Street NW); Wednesday morning, July 2, from 7-8AM EDT online; Thursday, July 3, from 7-8AM EDT in person/online (hybrid); and Friday, July 4, from 12-1PM EDT online.

Annie will facilitate on Monday evening, and we will begin our summer reading of the book The Art of Power by Thich Nhat Hanh (Thay). This week, if you are able, we invite you to read the Introduction and Chapter One: True Power (pages 1-29). 

In the introduction, Thay asks, “What does power mean to us?” In the United States  (and the world) today, we are thinking and talking about power a lot. How much power does a president have? How much power do the people have? 

This summer, we can read how Thay defines and measures power, and we can reflect together how that lands for us, and how we might use these practices and concepts to develop the kind of power that can help us live a more joyful and compassionate life.

Reverence for Life: To what extent do you kill with your thoughts?

Reverence for Life: To what extent do you kill with your thoughts?

Dear friends,

This week, we will meet Monday evening, June 23rd, from 7-8:30PM EDT online; Wednesday morning, June 25th, from 7-8AM EDT in person at our meditation space (3812 Northampton Street NW); and Friday, June 27th, 12-1PM EDT online.

On Monday night, Marie will facilitate. Marie shares:

After our sitting meditation, we will recite the Five Mindfulness Trainings and then explore the First Mindfulness Training, Reverence for Life. See below for the full text.

This past week, as I reflected on the First Training, I kept returning to this line: “I am determined not to kill, not to let others kill, and not to support any act of killing in the world, in my thinking, or in my way of life.”  I noticed how easy it was to kill with my thoughts.

I was traveling to my 35th reunion at university, and I had some mixed emotions as I anticipated who I would see, what would happen, and how I might feel. Voila! I was killing with my thoughts! 

A Prayer for Land

A Prayer for Land

Dear friends,

This week, we will meet Monday evening, June 16, from 7-8:30PM EDT in person at our meditation space (3812 Northampton Street NW); Wednesday morning, June 18, from 7-8AM EDT online; and Friday, June 20, from 12-1PM EDT in person/online (hybrid).

On Monday, our evening meditation will be facilitated by Annie. Annie shares:

We will listen to and watch a poem of Thich Nhat Hanh (Thay), A Prayer for Land, set to music by Sister Hiếu Đức and made into a music video by the Plum Village Band. The poem was written by Thay in 1977 when he was part of a team helping Vietnamese refugees reach Australia and Guam by boat. Many refugees were lost at sea, some pushed back out to sea to die by the Singapore government. 

When Sister Chan Khong and Thay learned about the plight of these “boat people,” they knew they had to help. You can listen and read more about the ways that Thay and Sister Chan Khong helped the “boat people” get to safety here. It wasn’t easy work, and it required strong mindfulness, courage, and the willingness to break the law.

Finding Equanimity in Uncertain, Hard Times

Finding Equanimity in Uncertain, Hard Times

Dear friends,

This week, we will meet Monday evening, June 9th, from 7-8:30PM EDT online; Wednesday morning, June 11th, from 7-8AM EDT in person at our meditation space (3812 Northampton Street NW); and Friday, June 13th, 12-1PM EDT online.

On Monday night, Ellen will facilitate. Ellen shares:

Sometimes life brings things together in unexpected ways, sometimes good, sometimes tough.  We have a lot of uncertainty in our world, in our country, and our communities now. I’ve been thinking about uncertainty in my life and how we can use mindfulness to calm the difficult feelings that can arise in uncertain times.  At the same time, I’ve been thinking about equanimity, which seems more important than ever now. Attaining equanimity is not easy, and it’s especially hard with so much uncertainty and pain around us now. But what is equanimity really?

Here’s the first definition I found online, and how amazing that  it included the Buddhist view of equanimity:

Equanimity is a state of being calm and balanced, especially in the midst of difficulty. It refers to evenness of mind, especially under stress. In Buddhism, equanimity is one of the Four Immeasurables or four great virtues that the Buddha taught his disciples to cultivate. The word equanimity can also refer to right disposition and balance.

Merriam Webster

Beginning anew to develop deeper relationships with ourselves, our loved ones, and our communities

 Beginning anew to develop deeper relationships with ourselves, our loved ones, and our communities

Dear friends,

This week, we will meet Monday evening, June 2, from 7-8:30PM EDT in person at our meditation space (3812 Northampton Street NW); Wednesday morning, June 4, from 7-8AM EDT online; Thursday morning, June 5, from 7-8AM EDT in person/online (hybrid) at our meditation space (3812 Northampton Street NW); and Friday, June 6, from 12-1PM EDT in person/online (hybrid).

On Monday, our evening meditation will be facilitated by Annie. Annie shares:

I heard about the practice of Beginning Anew on nearly every Plum Village retreat I attended. These sessions, usually led by Sister Chan Khong, always included a demonstration of the practice with a couple. 

Sister Chan Khong often reminded us that we may think we know our family member or friend one hundred percent, but we really only know five or ten percent of them. We make so many assumptions about the person sitting beside us without really knowing them in a deep way. We need a way to help us develop a deeper understanding of each other and share our vulnerabilities. This is why we practice Beginning Anew.

I am not an expert on Beginning Anew, but I have practiced with myself, my partner, and with the sangha over the years and have found it to be very helpful.

The illusion of the separate self and the ever-expanding and self-reflecting Avatamsaka realm

The illusion of the separate self and the ever-expanding and self-reflecting Avatamsaka realm

Dear friends,

This week, we will meet Monday evening, May 26th, from 7-8:30PM EDT online; Wednesday morning, May 28th, from 7-8AM EDT in person at our meditation space (3812 Northampton Street NW); and Friday, May 30th, 12-1PM EST online.

On Monday night, Magda will facilitate on the theme of the illusion of the separate self and the ever-expanding and self-reflecting Avatamsaka realm, described in the Buddha’s Avatamsaka Sūtra. This session follows  from Magda’s last facilitation, in which she explored the Diamond Sūtra and its teaching that our suffering should not define us. The Sūtra reveals that the self is an illusion and that suffering is both impermanent and deeply interconnected.

Building on that theme, and drawing from Thich Nhat Hanh’s commentary and teachings on manas (the aspect of consciousness tied to ego), we will reflect on how letting go of the notion of a separate self opens the path to freedom, compassion, and a deeper understanding of interbeing.

The Fifth Mindfulness Training: Nourishment and Healing

The Fifth Mindfulness Training: Nourishment and Healing

Dear friends,

This week, we will meet Monday evening, May 19, from 7-8:30PM EDT in person at our meditation space (3812 Northampton Street NW); Wednesday morning, May 21, from 7-8AM EDT online; and Friday, May 23, from 12-1PM EDT in person/online (hybrid).

This Monday, Ellen will facilitate and we will recite the Five Mindfulness Trainings and then focus on the Fifth Training: Nourishment and Healing.

The Five Mindfulness Trainings are one of the most concrete ways to practice mindfulness. They are nonsectarian, and their nature is universal. They are true practices of compassion and understanding. All spiritual traditions have their equivalent to the Five Mindfulness Trainings.

The Five Mindfulness Trainings are based on the precepts developed during the time of the Buddha to be the foundation of practice for the entire lay practice community. I have translated these precepts for modern times, because mindfulness is at the foundation of each one of them. With mindfulness, we are aware of what is going on in our bodies, our feelings, our minds and the world, and we avoid doing harm to ourselves and others.

Third Realization: The awareness that the human mind is always searching outside of itself and never feels fulfilled

Third Realization: The awareness that the human mind is always searching outside of itself and never feels fulfilled

Dear friends,

This week, we will meet Monday evening, May 12th, from 7-8:30PM EDT online; Wednesday morning, May 14th, from 7-8AM EDT in person at our meditation space (3812 Northampton Street NW); and Friday, May 16th, 12-1PM EST online.

On Monday night, Camille will facilitate, and we will continue to explore the Buddhist sutra on the Eight Realizations of Great Beings. According to the podcast, The Way Out Is In, Thich Nhat Hanh (Thay) says that using the realizations as practical tools in our daily life can help us generate more understanding and compassion in our bodies, thoughts, perceptions, minds, and motivations. 

Each of these realizations builds on the previous one. This week, we will focus on the Third Realization: “The awareness that the human mind is always searching outside of itself and never feels fulfilled. This brings about unwholesome activity.”

Trusting the Moment

Trusting the Moment

Dear friends,

This week, we will meet Monday evening, May 5, from 7-8:30PM EDT in person at our meditation space (3812 Northampton Street NW); Wednesday morning, May 7, from 7-8AM EDT online; and Friday, May 9, from 12-1PM EDT in person/online (hybrid).

On Monday, our evening meditation will be facilitated by Annie. Annie shares:

As we face political, mental health, and climate crises, I’ve been trying to figure out how, in each moment of my short life, I might contribute more love, more awakening, and more peace to myself and the world. 

Starting with the awareness of non-self, I know that whatever is occurring in the present moment is not personal. I see that this moment is coming from our ancestors, our previous actions, the cosmos, and all causes and conditions. I am not personally responsible for the troubling thoughts inside of me or the chaos happening around me. What shows up in each moment is not really in my control.

And yet, I do have agency in this moment. 

Listening Deeply When Hearing Feels Hard: Practicing with the Fourth Mindfulness Training

Listening Deeply When Hearing Feels Hard: Practicing with the Fourth Mindfulness Training

Dear Thay, Dear friends,

This week, we will meet Monday evening, April 28th, from 7-8:30PM EDT online; Wednesday morning, April 30th, from 7-8AM EDT in person at our meditation space (3812 Northampton Street NW); and Friday, May 2nd, 12-1PM EST online.

On Monday night Marie will facilitate.  She shares:  We will recite the Five Mindfulness Trainings and collectively explore our experiences with the Fourth Training, Loving Speech and Deep Listening.

This training continues to be the most challenging for me. Now, with the state of the world and this country being what they are, my fuse feels shorter, even as I know that reacting doesn’t help. What does help? Listening to and practicing with Thich Nhat Hanh’s short teaching on Loving Speech & Compassion. During his talk, Thay invites us to a “three-day practice challenge” to help expand our capacity to heal through deep listening. 

On Monday night, after reciting the trainings together, we will watch the video, share our responses and explore our practice with the Fourth Training, which is written below for your ease of reference.

The diamond that cuts through illusion: This suffering is not me

The diamond that cuts through illusion: This suffering is not me

Dear friends,

This week, we will meet Monday evening, April 21, from 7-8:30PM EDT in person at our meditation space (3812 Northampton Street NW); Wednesday morning, April 23, from 7-8AM EDT online; and Friday, April 25, from 12-1PM EDT in person/online (hybrid).

Dear friends,

On Monday, our meditation evening will be facilitated by Magda. Magda shares:

During these times, I have met many people deeply impacted by the actions of the new administration. Many of us have internalized not only our personal suffering but also the suffering around us. Some have come to feel profoundly alone in their pain, believing it to be permanent. For a time, I, too, felt unable to detach from suffering—as if I was becoming one with it.

I was grateful to attend a class at the European Institute of Applied Buddhism (EIAB) called No Mud, No Lotus, where Brother Phap An taught us about manas, the aspect of consciousness tied to the ego. Manas tells us to cling to experiences, convincing us that we are somehow at the center of events, that whatever happens is happening to us. It focuses our attention on impermanent things, making us wish they would last forever or worrying they will never go away.