This Monday, we will build on last week’s exploration of the 2nd Mindfulness Training, True Happiness.    We will investigate those moments when we did/did not feel happy and reflect on how we behaved as a result of these feelings.

Last week, I experienced a roller coaster of emotions - from exquisite happiness of being outdoors with my family in the snowy mountains of Colorado - to making harsh judgements about the very same family and wishing they were different from how I view them as being.

While the roller coaster felt extreme at the time, I now see that it is more normal that I’d like to admit.   For someone who has been practicing mindfulness for a long time, this was a “bitter awakening”, as Anam Thubten calls those powerful moments that invite us to wake up.

This coming Monday, after sitting and walking mindfully together, we will recite the Five Mindfulness Trainings – our guidelines for an ethical life. This month, we will focus on the Second Mindfulness Training: True Happiness.

In  other lineages, the title of this training is simply “Not Stealing.” This is where one can appreciate Thich Nhat Hanh's wisdom and skillful kindness: Instead of telling us what not to do, Thay (as his students call him) very gently invites us to practice the opposite of stealing, which is practicing generosity in its many forms, generosity being the root of true happiness.

In his book The Mindfulness Survival Kit, Thay writes:

The Second Mindfulness Training is about taking only what is freely given and treating the environment with care. It is about learning to share material goods, time and energy with those who are in need. The aim of this training is to end craving. Because of our craving for natural resources, because of the craving of the market for us to consume its goods, governments don't hesitate to bring an army to invade another country and end countless lives. Because of this craving, we allow poverty and hunger to exist, afraid we won't have enough for ourselves if everyone has what they need. Craving leads to the destruction of the environment and the pollution of water, the soil and the air.

Dear Friends,

This week Andy & Annie will co-facilitate.

On December 16 at sangha, we watched a section of the first ARISE webinar (click here to access full recording of the webinar) on dharma and social justice. 

Who is ARISE? 
ARISE sangha - Awakening through Race, Intersectionality, and Social Equity - is made of practitioners and monastics who come together to heal the wounds of racial injustice and social inequity, beginning with looking deeply within ourselves and using the energy of compassion, understanding, and love in action. Part of their mission is to guide those of us in the larger community in how to do this work as well.

In November, ARISE offered their first webinar (click here to watch.) This Monday, we will watch or listen to another portion of the webinar. 

In the fourteen mindfulness trainings, Thay writes:

Aware that the essence and aim of a Sangha is the practice of understanding and compassion, we are determined not to use the Buddhist community for personal gain or profit or transform our community into a political instrument. A spiritual community should, however, take a clear stand against oppression and injustice and should strive to change the situation without engaging in partisan conflicts.

Dear Sangha, Dear Friends: 

What an honor to be facilitating our Sangha on the very last day of 2019! Thank you for allowing me to hold space for all of us. I believe it is important to enter the New Year with intention, while honoring all that has brought us to the end of another year of life on Earth. This is why, every December, I create two separate family glass jars: one to remember our blessings and what we are grateful for, and one to intentionally invite in new experiences and/or attitudes for the New Year. I generally keep my glass jars in a visible place and, occasionally, I open them and read the tiny folded notes inside. They remind me to be present, intentional and conscious because, as my Mom often says: Where Attention Goes, Energy Flows. So true, don’t you think? 

Photo by Henrik Hjortshøj 

With the holidays all but upon us and the end of the year / decade approaching this Monday we plan on having a seasonal sangha gathering where we get to enjoy a little more time than usual enjoying each other’s company. Rather than the usual two ‘sits’ and a walking meditation we will ‘sit’ just once and then spend time sharing food and dharma. With many folks headed out of town, and others having guests visiting we expect this to be a nice small group evening. 

In terms of a dharma sharing I thought it might be fun to ponder on a favorite story shared by Thay:

One day the Buddha was sitting with his monks in the woods. They had just finished their mindful lunch and were about to start a question and answer session. A peasant passed by and asked the Buddha, “Dear monk, have you seen my cows passing by here?”

The Buddha said, “What cows?”

Dear Friends,

With so much conversation around racial and social justice, how do we work with these issues through the lens of the mindfulness and Buddhist practice, and specifically through the teachings of Thich Nhat Hanh?

Within the larger Thich Nhat Hanh community, a few years ago, a small group of practitioners came together to create the international ARISE sangha. ARISE - Awakening through Race, Intersectionality, and Social Equity - is made of practitioners and monastics who came together to heal the wounds of racial injustice and social inequity, beginning with looking deeply within ourselves and using the energy of compassion, understanding, and love in action. Part of their mission is to guide those of us in the larger community in how to do this work as well.

Following on Marie’s beautiful thread from last week, I would like to share my personal practice of sitting — a practice that helps me to “build a home inside yourself to love and heal yourself”. During dharma sharing I will invite you to reflect and share your own experiences. Why do you sit? 

I sit because it makes me happier. I sit alone to enjoy the calm. I sit with others to enjoy the peace and rest of connecting with others in silence without needing to engage in conversation. 

I also sit to create new neural pathways, new more skillful ways to act and react to old stimuli in order to decrease the suffering I cause to myself and others. Modern neuroscience has helped elucidate the brain’s process to do this challenging work. Consistent repetition of new learned behaviors appears to be key. Thich Nhat Hahn (Thay/teacher in Vietnamese) teaches the time-honored way to do this using a metaphor of ‘watering seeds’ in our store consciousness/subconscious. By watering the positive seeds within ourselves and others, these seeds or tendencies will grow and thrive. By refraining to water the less helpful seeds in ourselves and others, they will wither from lack of nourishment and fall away. 

Last Monday, Camille helped us to explore the 2nd Mindfulness Training: True Happiness. Several people shared their challenges, and their practice with this part of the training: “…the happiness and suffering of others are not separate from my own happiness and suffering…”

From a theoretical perspective, we know that we “inter-are”with those who are suffering, and we have a clear sense of the implications. Yet from a practical perspective, this can be difficult to do, especially (for me), with those I love the most who have been suffering for a long time.

On Monday night after our sitting and walking meditation (we will not do the 2nd sitting meditation), we will read the Five Mindfulness Trainings together,  and after the reading we will explore the Second Mindfulness Training, True Happiness.

Last Monday night at sangha Mick talked about "the art of stopping" and coming back to our breath and taking care of ourselves during challenges, and the week before Annie talked about cultivating "compassion, freshness, and understanding", all of which are mindfulness practices that give us the opportunity to be more present and move closer to joy and happiness.  True happiness is not possible without these qualities.

You may have noticed a shift in your mood and your everyday rhythm as the days get shorter and the air gets cooler. Although winter is a time of moving inwards, over the next 6 weeks especially our energy can be pulled outward by the holidays and all that they entail.

This outward movement can be in addition to our usual states of activity. 

Thich Nhat Hanh talks about meditation and mindfulness practice as “the art of stopping.”

“We have to learn the art of stopping - stopping our thinking, our habit energies, our forgetfulness, the strong emotions that rule us. When an emotion rushes through us like a storm, we have no peace. We turn on the TV and then we turn it off. We pick up a book and then we put it down. How can we stop this state of agitation? How can we stop our fear, despair, anger, and craving? We can stop by practicing mindful breathing, mindful walking, mindful smiling, and deep looking in order to understand. When we are mindful, touching deeply the present moment, the fruits are always understanding, acceptance, love, and the desire to relieve suffering and bring joy.”

This week, we will contemplate together the following words which were part of an answer Thich Nhat Hanh gave at a Q&A session in the UK in 2010:

So our practice should transform us more, should bring more compassion and freshness into our person.

Then when we don’t suffer anymore, we can with our compassion, with our freshness, with our understanding, help the other person come out of that situation.

So I would suggest that we stop thinking that we have done our part, only he has not done his part. We can very well improve our quality of practice.

And we should believe that when we have become true compassion, true freshness, true understanding, things will change. Because every one of us needs these three elements.

I feel very grateful for all the practices that Thay, our venerable teacher, offers to help us transform our suffering and live a happier life. One of these practices is the Five Mindfulness Trainings, which are guidelines that help us look deeply into our daily life. The question one might ask could then be: “How do we look deeply?” 

Every morning we have 24 brand new hours to live. What a precious gift!” Thich Nhat Hanh

When my heart is heavy, my mind is cluttered, or I’m feeling too reactive, I find it helpful to step back and embrace a moment of gratitude.  Without fail, this brief practice results in feelings of more spaciousness, lightness and clarity.  Something inside me shifts.  So, in preparing for this Monday’s sangha, I wanted to share, for the second time, a reflection on gratitude from Brother Phap Hai (Dharma Ocean), a senior monastic Dharma teacher at Deer Park Monastery and board member of the Thich Nhat Hanh Foundation.  Although written on Thanksgiving Day 2016, it is relevant to all of our days!

Photo credit: Bella Appel

Dear Friends,

This evening we will enjoy the Five Earth Touchings together (see full text below).  The Earth Touchings are a Buddhist meditation practice where we bow down and surrender to the Earth. Also called the Five Prostrates, we join the mind and body to help us "return to the Earth and to our roots, and to recognize that we are not alone but connected to a whole stream of spiritual and blood ancestors.  We touch the Earth to let go of the idea that we are separate and to remind us that we are the Earth and part of life.  When we touch the Earth, we breathe in all the strength and stability of the Earth, and breathe out our suffering – our feelings of anger, hatred, fear, inadequacy and grief.  This is a wonderful practice." (From Plum Village web site).